We went swimming at 39 weeks pregnant and the wife wore a bikini. Unbeknown to me at first, being as observant as a mole, people were giving the wife odd looks. I might even go as far as saying ‘disgusted’ looks. Prior to going, it didn’t even enter my mind that people might be offended by a pregnant women in a bikini and since recieving these looks, I have no idea what their problem is!
I looked into this a little further and found that the internet is littered with people having major issues with pregnant women wearing bikinis. Poor Tori Spelling had a horrid time after she was caught on camera sporting a skimpy swim suit bikini whilst heavily pregnant.
Here’s a few quotes from the comments her photo received:
“Too much showing. Not suitable for a pregnant mom with a seven-month-old.
“Ewww. She’s pregnant! Cover that bump up! No one wants to see that!!”
“NOT motherly AT ALL. In future years she will surely regret that unflattering picture. COVER up girl!”
“That suit is barely suitable for a non-pregnant woman let alone a pregnant one!”
“Have a little more modestly when you’re pregnant!!! Geez!!!”
“She’s pregnant and wearing this? She’s just trashy and looks like a ………..”
I couldn’t believe my eyes reading the various comments and opinions so I thought that I would locate the worst/best of what I found and then address it myself.
“Gross if noticeably pregnant. A big belly may be awe-inspiring, kiss-worthy, life-creating and rhetorical thing of beauty but in a bikini it just does not look good. I get the heebie-jeebies from seeing any bared pregnant midriff.”
Gross? Have they actually just said it’s gross? If we’re talking about what doesn’t look good in a bikini, pregnancy, in my mind, is way down the list. I think this issue needs an element of perspective.
“Not everyone wants to see bulging belly flaunted in their face. Princess Kate Middleton, she carried herself with grace. These people who wear bikinis or skin tight shirts…now that’s gross.”
Princess Middleton probably has a very long list of do’s and don’ts and I’ll bet a large sum of money that doing anything controversial is firmly on the don’ts list. Not everyone wants smoke blown in their face walking down the street, not everyone wants to hear people swearing, not everyone wants to see soft porn splattered all over our advertisements. This person should understand we live in a society where people are free to do as they choose.
“My mother…even complains if a pregnant women wears a tight top showing her belly, damn they should cover themselves up.”
There is a point to make here about tradition. Historically women felt more comfortable within society to cover their bumps up. There are even accounts of women not leaving the house when they started to show as it was deemed inappropriate. Yet, it was during these times that women had a raw deal; they weren’t allowed to vote or speak freely. Times have changed!
“I think it’s inappropriate and not attractive at all.”
Attraction! Is this really the point here? I don’t find 99% of the population attractive and yet they can wear bikinis without disgusted looks. Physical attraction is such a personal thing, dependant on so many things. Hair colour, eye colour, size, age, ethnicity, fashion etc etc… when I find someone unattractive I find it pretty easy to control myself from issuing disgusted looks.
“Pregnant bellies are just as attractive as a massive beer gut. Actually less so if they have that nasty poppin’-out belly button. That makes me gag.”
Really? A massive beer gut is caused by an unhealthy lifestyle, which must be considered when thinking about attraction and pregnancy is a natural part of life and creation, a beer gut isn’t! I’m unsure how this person managed to avoid kicking themselves in the face after writing that comment!
“Can’t a pregnant women wear a regular bathing suit rather than a bikini?”
Correct me if I’m wrong from looking at this with my male, logical, problem solving hat on but surely when you have a huge bump wearing something that doesn’t effect that area is far more practical, comfortable and sensible? After all the trouble I’ve had with the wife and her wardrobe, it was actually refreshing for her to wear something that wasn’t “too tight for the bump” or “won’t fit over the bump.” I think bikinis are a bloody good idea for pregnant women!
Ok, so as a dad, here’s my conclusion. It’s very simple. I think people should be able to wear whatever they choose. Men, women, pregnant or not, without judgement and criticism from others. I think my wife and her bump look stunning and I’m very proud of her and her body. I certainly wouldn’t want her worrying about whether others think she looks attractive or not. Who cares? As long as she feels good and comfortable, that’s all that matters.
If you’re comfortable wearing what your wearing then great. Happy days! People have no right to give out dirty looks, comments or criticism. And if they do, ignore them. The Dad Network has spoken!
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